Any long-term partnership has faced challenging times that ripple into their relationship. Common struggles include balancing busy work schedules, managing financial stress, navigating changes like moves, dealing with family dynamics, or adjusting to new roles as parents. These trying times test teamwork, but they also offer opportunities to grow closer. Here are some tips on staying connected when facing turbulence:
Maintain Small Rituals of Connection
When one or both of you are facing challenges, and it's putting a strain on the relationship, it's easy to lose touch (literally). Try to keep the moments of small connection going. It could be taking your partner's hand while driving to and from errands. Or it could be the simple act of preparing their coffee in the morning, telling them that you love them before bed, or bringing them home a special treat as a pick-me-up. These are all small rituals of connection, but they matter hugely in the grand scheme of the relationship.
Carve Out Time for Fun
Even during the challenging times, making plans to have fun with each other is important. It doesn't have to mean you plan an elaborate weekend getaway in the thick of a significant and stressful life change; it could be something small something more attainable. Maybe you walk the dog together at a favorite trail or watch a new stand-up comedy special together on a Saturday night. Your version of fun together can meet you both exactly where you are right now in life!
Walk Down Memory Lane
During the hard times, it's essential to reflect on happier ones. Over dinner, bring up a happy memory you and your partner have shared in the past. You could reminisce about when you met, or if you're married, how happy your wedding day was. Think about moments of joy you've both shared and maybe even some funny moments that transport you back to a time when you were both laughing so hard you cried. Ultimately, reflecting on happy times can remind you that tough situations are temporary and there is plenty more good to be shared.
Consider Seeking Outside Support
Sometimes, the challenges you and your partner face may feel bigger than the two of you can handle on your own—and that's okay. Couples therapy is a valuable step. A professional couples counsellor provides a neutral space to unpack your struggles, improve communication, and equip you with tools to navigate difficulties. Therapy isn't just for major hurdles; it's a proactive way to prevent small issues from growing.
Focus Forward Therapy Group Supports Your Journey Together
Every relationship has its ups and downs, and sometimes, a little extra support makes all the difference. That's why we're here to help you and your partner reconnect, communicate, and grow stronger together. Reach out today to schedule a session and take the first step toward a closer, more connected partnership.
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